Thursday, February 26, 2009


This week’s message on forgiveness was very powerful. No doubt if you had unforgiveness towards someone and you have released it rather than relived it, you are living like a new person today. Forgiving someone is literally having a weight lifted. You may notice that you are happier and smiling for no apparent reason, simply because the “cancer” of unforgiveness that you’ve held is no longer in you.

Unforgiveness is truly a cancer. It will eat at you and cause a decay in your body and attitude that will ruin you – not the other person. If you have not made the decision to forgive the person/people that hurt you, why not? Do you really believe you are hurting them in the same way they hurt you? Do you think you will ever find comfort in this? Look at your life now. How long have you held onto the hurt, and what positive things have come into your life because of it?

Don’t wait for someone to ask you for forgiveness. That day may never come. Jesus didn’t wait for you to ask for forgiveness. He forgave you on the cross. Maybe the person that wronged you is no longer living. Did you know you can still forgive them? Forgiveness is a choice. Once you choose to forgive, what the other person does with it makes no difference. You will immediately feel the change within you.
“…it (love) keeps no record of wrong.” 1 Corinthians 13:5

What if the person you can’t forgive is yourself? Why do you hold on to the hurtful memories of the things you did wrong? If Jesus forgave you, who are you not to forgive yourself? If we are supposed to love others as ourselves, then we must forgive ourself. How can you show love to others if you can’t love yourself? It can’t be done. Don’t keep track of your past, “As far as the east is from the west, So far has He removed our transgressions from us”. Psalm 103:12

What if it is God that you are mad at? What if you are hurting and wonder where he is? Maybe you lost a loved one and you still don’t understand why. Maybe you are suffering, or watching a family member suffer and you feel like your prayers go unanswered. What if life is just beating you up and you know God’s there, but yet nothing in your life is changing? How do “forgive” God?

Even Jesus on the cross asked, “… "Eli, Eli, lama sabachthani?" that is, "My God, My God, why hast Thou forsaken Me?" Matthew 27:45. Remember that God gave His only Son to not only die, but also to suffer a horrible death for you and I. If you think of it, He suffered life on this earth. To come from heaven to earth is suffering a poverty that we will never know.

His story has similarities to the story of our lives. This life is not perfect. Everything you are going through, the Lord has been through. Every tear you shed has been seen by our Father. When you were alone and cried out, He heard you. Although you may not understand what is happening to you, God does. He will never leave you nor forsake you. You have to remember that you can trust in Him. Isn’t that why you are hurting? Isn’t it because you feel like the One who came to save you has given you false hopes? Aren’t you mad because His promises appear to have not come to pass? Are you angry because the losses you have felt are as real to you today as they were then?

The answer is not a simple, “Let go and let God”. We overcome the weight that holds us when we trust and really believe in God’s promises will come to pass. Trust and believe that the hurt you feel now will fade away. Trust and believe that you can open yourself up again to others. Trust and believe He knows exactly where you are. Trust and believe He knows exactly what you are going through and He already knows exactly where He is taking you.

Will you make the choice today to forgive someone else, yourself and/or God no matter how hard it may be? Abundance and freedom are on the “other side” of forgiveness!

Melissa - MWM Team

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Forgiveness is probably the hardest thing to give. It's often easy to forgive our children, and those we love and trust the most, because we are confident in their love. We know that though they may say or do something hurtful, that truly they do not mean to. We give them latitude to express their anger and frustration, knowing that later they will probably say they're sorry either by words or actions. But, it's those who we are not so closely entangled with that we often just write out of our lives because we don't even feel they are worthy, "I don't know them, they don't know me, and we'll just keep it that way." How many potential friendships have we thrown away simply because we don't have the energy to work through the conflict to get to the heart of the matter. For those who are married, you know that each argument or stressful situation, once worked through, has brought you closer together as a couple, and has proved to increase your level of trust and commitment.

God promises to give us strength to go through the fire. The fire is where we burn off all the unnecessary stuff, like unforgiveness, that we want to hold on to.

This weeks posting is very powerful, because it points out that sometimes it's our relationship with God that needs the attention. We need to tell Him how we feel, and how we are hurt that he seems to be sitting back and watching us suffer. We need to get it all out in the open and then listen and hear his answer.

I heard an analogy on the radio the other morning about harboring unforgiveness. Like an ice cube, it you put it out on the table, slowly it will melt away, but it you keep it securely shut up in the freezer, it will remain hard and unyielding.

Let's take our unforgiveness out of the dark cold depths of our hearts and put it on the table and let the warmth and light of our love for God and man melt it away. Each person it worth it.

This blog is awesome. I love reading it and reflecting on the message each week. Thank you for sharing your heart.